Happy New Year, everyone!
2014 was a huge year for me – and for my blog. I released Get Lucky, the sex advice book co-written with Pip Harry. I had a baby. And I answered a huge amount of letters. Here’s a little flashback of the best from the RC Mailbag, if you’re new to the site or only have the chance to pop in occasionally.
At the start of the year, I fielded a cry for help from RC reader Alex, who wondered how to convince her boyfriend not to break up with her. I dealt some tough love to Martha about her no-hoper boyfriend. And the Manswers Men tackled a sad but all too common conundrum: do cheaters ever change? We also posted an all-time favourite about sex toy myths – check it out here if you missed it.
In February, RC reader Confused wrote in about her toxic relationship, concerned she and her boyfriend were flogging a dead horse, so to speak. In A Pickle wrote in wondering if she should end her long distance relationship over a crush. A woman fed up with her husband’s moods also asked for advice – and I loved answering Julian’s question about whether he should stop fixating on his new partner’s past.
In March, I tackled the tricky question of what to do when you no longer have the hots for your partner, plus offered advice to a woman sick of being the pillar of strength in her marriage. More toxic relationship questions popped up, as well as a letter that seriously freaked out a few people from a guy who had sexual feelings for his elderly mother. I offered some solutions to a woman who felt her boyfriend’s drinking was getting out of control, while another reader wondered if she was making too much of her partner’s penchant for telling little white lies. And then there was this letter that riled up the comment box, from a woman torn over leaving her bad husband – because he was also a great father. I also wrote about giant boobs and even bigger hunger in my pregnancy diary, Up The Duff.
In April, RC reader Kristin wrote in confessings she was miserable after rushing into her marriage – while Taylor complained that her husband’s latex addiction (and other behaviours) was ruining hers. I also advised a reader still full of rage two years after splitting with her ex (who gone and gotten engaged). I gave undecided pregnant reader Christine a reality check and revealed why – then pregnant myself – my classy and elegant days were over!
As the year wore on, I fielded letters on maintenance-dodging exes, proposals you should think twice about accepting, and how to deal when the Mr Keen you’re dating suddenly cools for no reason. Also popping up: peeing in the shower, living with your boyfriend’s misogynistic slob of a friend and my personal favourite from a reader whose partner got another woman pregnant when they were together, but now wanted her back. (I put my cranky pants on for that one.)
In July, I posted a question from Sam who was having second thoughts about her engagement and the house she’d just bought with her future husband (eek); the Manswers Men fielded a query from a gal whose sex life had gone from great to kinda awkward, and I offered advice to RC reader Andy, who desperately wanted his ex back. In August, my favourite question was from Sophie, who was terribly unhappy with her husband but worried about hurting him. But sometimes, you’ve just gotta bite the bullet and leave.
September was a tad quiet because baby Charlie made his grand entrance! But I did find time to answer this question from RC reader Mr DOP about whether you should ditch childish hobbies in order to have a mature relationship. (Interesting one for anyone who collects comic books.) I also started a new column, The Mama Files – which has covered everything from decoding newborn cries to forgetting you have a baby while you’re in a store (yep, that happened).
The second half of 2014 rolled on with a question from Ann, who moved to her boyfriend’s town only to find that her new life sucked… along with the girlfriend who couldn’t keep up with her boyfriend’s sexual demands. We also had one of our many quickies updates (where the advice is short and sharp). I shared my thoughts with RC reader Mr Yellow, who couldn’t let go of his anger over his ex – and served up a little tough love to a sad reader who wondered how to get her ex to give them a second chance. More relationships under threat from substance abuse, the Manswers Man BB gave his thoughts to single mum Mandy on finding someone to love and we finished off the year with a bored fiancee and a woman who ended her relationship because of her partner’s bad behaviour, but was tortured by it.
It’s been a great year of letters. I’ve also loved writing the pregnancy column and am really digging The Mama Files (I hope you are too), if at least because it’s ensuring I remember what this phase of new parenthood is actually like (easily forgettable when you’re a sleep-deprived zombie). I also LOVE your comments so if you’re a long-time lurker who’s yet to leave your two cents on a post, I hope you’ll make 2015 the year that you do.
Thanks again to all of you for reading and to those of you who’ve trusted me with your problems. As always, the Question Box is open – so please feel free to drop me a line if you need advice. I can’t wait to share more love life Q&As (and motherhood rantings) with you in 2015!