I just got out of a 4 year relationship which, in the last few months, got really toxic. So, now I’m on my own and I’m really scared of trying to find someone new. This could be because I’m a bit of a big kid at heart. I like comic books and enjoy silly things like cartoons, but these things don’t prevent me from doing the serious ‘adult’ things, like budgeting or making sure bills are paid. I have a history of depression, but I’m a lot better now and these silly things really help me cope and remain happy. My ex tolerated it all as she liked the stuff too, but quickly changed into a career-driven serious person. Am I asking too much for a woman to accept that I have these things in my life? Should I just ditch them all? Mr DOP
Ahhh, a question many cohabiting couples can probably relate to, I’m guessing. Especially when a person’s collection of action men figurines threatens to take over the living room. But where do we draw the line on ‘childish’? Adults who prefer reading YA books like Harry Potter and The Hunger Games? People who’d prefer to spend their downtime on the Playstation rather than at the pub? We all have stuff that feeds our soul and no, I don’t think you should have to ditch your love of cartoons and comic books just because someone thinks you need to grow up a little or because your hobbies don’t align with their vision of the perfect partner. Especially if those things keep you sane and happy.
Hobbies in general, I reckon, become a problem when they repeatedly take priority over a partner. Whether that means watching back-to-back episodes of Road Runner or spending the entire weekend on the golf course. Bottom line? It’s all about balance, my friend. Don’t try and mold yourself into the type of guy you *think* women want. As long as you’re prepared to strike a balance and make time for the one you love, the right person should want you and love you unconditionally, hobbies and all.
Love, reality chick