QUICKIES: Evil exes on Facebook | Porn stashes | Nooky without the parents knowing and more

QUICKIES: Evil exes on Facebook | Porn stashes | Nooky without the parents knowing and more

In our latest quickies update, we offer advice to a woman whose husband’s ex-wife is getting even on Facebook. We also answer questions about finding your fiance’s porn stash, nooky when you live with the olds and what to do when the domestic divide is a yawning chasm. Got a question? Write to us! You can email askme@realitychick.com.au or visit the Question Box if you’d rather stay anonymous.

Ex trouble
My husband’s ex posted this on her Facebook page: “I never get jealous when I see my ex with someone else because my parents taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate”.  I’m 13 years old younger than her and my friends say she’s just jealous. Her kids love me too! I have never done anything bad to her. I am so mad I don’t know what to do.
Nadia

It’s catty and immature, sure. But just take a few boxing classes to vent and then rise above it. You’ve got the man, his kids like you, and there’s no reason for you to feel threatened. Don’t pay any attention to her nasty comments and be as civil as you can while you deal with the practicalities of shared custody.  

Fiance has a porn stash
I’m newly engaged and just found a porn magazine hidden in my guy’s wardrobe. I’m gutted. Our sex life was great, but I suddenly feel like I’m not enough for him.
Anon

The timing sucks a bit, but don’t let a harmless girly mag burst your love bubble. Even if it icks you out (and you’re not alone), many blokes watch or look at porn of some sort. Come back to us when your sex life is dead as a doornail and his porn stash has taken over the spare room. 

For folks’ sake!
My boyfriend and I are 22. We’ve moved back to my parents to save money for a flat, but they have a small house, they’re always home and our sex life is suffering. Help! Deprived

Have some creativity! Good nooky (or any nooky, as in your case) requires it. Think weekend camping trips; reasonably priced little B&Bs, and possibly the spare room at a friend’s next housewarming party. It beats sitting at home with the olds watching the 7.30 Report, surely? 

Role with it
My fiancé gets cranky if I don’t cook dinner or do the washing. We both work full-time and I think it should be shared, but he won’t chip in. It bugs me. Amber

It bugs you? Amber, you should’ve nipped this guy’s expectations in the bud long ago. You’d better hope he hasn’t gotten too used to it! Stick up a roster and say you’ll happily negotiate on who does what – but the days of you doing it ALL are over. If you don’t, prepare for life as a Stepford wife.

~ These questions recently appeared in NW Magazine.

Freelance journo, blogger, self-appointed advice-giver and co-author of Get Lucky. If you've got a dating or relationship issue, feel free to ask a question. (PS. You can also find me at The Mama Files and Letter To My Ex).

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