I‘ve met a handsome, funny guy through a mutual friend. We are both in our early thirties and ready for a long term relationship – about time! Only snag is, we recently went to the beach and stripped down to our swimmers. We’ve yet to have sex, so I was shocked to discover my new man is covered in hair!
I’m not just talking a small patch here and there. His neck, back, shoulders, chest, arms…everywhere is covered by a fuzzy black jungle. He looks like a yeti! Should I ask him to shave? Or wax? Or just get over it? Help! I’m not sure I’m attracted to him anymore. Laser Lover
While it’s lovely to run your fingers through a manageable patch of chest grass, I suspect few women would want to get lost in an all-over Amazonian jungle. But, body hair is a tricky one, whether he’s asking you to shave your welcome mat or you’re unable to get excited about a guy who looks like a Yeti. It’s one of those relationship conversations no one really wants to have and how far you go on de-fuzzing for your partner’s pleasure is really down to the individual.
I’d chat to him about it and (nicely) see if he’s open to doing a little waxing or weed whacker maintenance (he might not even realise it’s an issue). If he’s not keen, you’re stuck – and yeah, you either need to get over it and love him for his other amazing qualities, or move on.
Love, reality chick