I‘m dating a guy I met online. He seems really nice and we have a lot in common – but he is unbelievably tight. Everything is split. Even the first time he asked me out for coffee, he went up and paid for his while I was in the loo, then told me to take care of my half of the bill when I returned. Is this a deal-breaker? Sue
He paid half of a $6 bill while you were in the loo? He probably goes through restaurant bills with a highlighter. No joke, I’ve heard stories about tightwads who split supermarket dockets with their live-in girlfriend by totting up his-and-her items to the last cent. I also knew a husband who kept an itemised You-Owe-Me list on the fridge to keep track of every dollar he loaned his wife. I’m not saying guys should pay for everything when you’re dating – far from it. But similar values are essential and you sound poles apart.
Love, reality chick