Hey RC. I’ve tried RSVP, E-harmony, you name it, I’ve tried it. I’ve been on, I don’t know, I’ve lost count, at least a dozen dates, probably more, and they’ve all been boring / odd / freaks / fucktards. I need to meet men the old-fashioned way but… how?
I mean seriously, when you’re not into meeting via the bar scene and you work from home and all your friends are coupled up or gay… HOW? Sydney Chick
Fucktards! What a great new word to add to my vocab. I’ve been where you are Sydney Chick…at a loss to where all the decent men are in this town (hiding together in a big football stadium perhaps?) Whilst I think online dating is an essential tool to have in your dating kit, it’s good to mix it up. I’d start by taking a business approach to your single status. Let all the people in your life know you’d like to be introduced to their available friends. Send out an email if you have to and be direct. “Dear Friends, I’d like to meet someone…can you help?”
Then make a plan to get out of your comfort zone and out of the house. Join a swimming club (nice, fit boys in Speedos), a surf lifesaving club (ditto), a touch rugby team, mixed soccer or anything else that takes your fancy (fencing, tennis…whatever you like). Try speed dating (take along a girlfriend to bolster your confidence), host a cocktail party and ask your mates to bring single friends, start a bookclub, check out your local trivia night, go on more internet dates, take an adventurous trip with a small group (think Intrepid or Geckos), take a cooking class that might attract men, study a short course in photography (nice men with cameras) or learn a language. The one thing you can’t do is stop trying or searching.
Even if you are in a lift, or a cafe waiting for your flat white, strike up conversations with men. They may lead to nothing more than a nice chat. But you’ve got to be putting lots of lines in the water to snare a tasty fish.
Love, reality chick