How do you get past the stage of wanting your ex back in a breakup? I’m coming out of a 2 year relationship and I feel like I’m stuck at this point. It’s holding me back from moving on. I’ve been keeping myself busy and doing the things you’re meant to but I just feel like I’m getting nowhere. Trying
Do you mean it’s been two years since you split … or you’ve JUST broken up from a two year relationship? If it’s the former, are you dating? Meeting new people? Have you put all the reminders of your ex away? Are you doing no contact or have you stayed friends? Do you stalk him on Facebook (like reportedly 90 percent of people)? Do you try to get snippets of info about his life from mutual friends? Do you take innocent ‘detours’ to drive past his house? If any or all of the above sound familiar, there’s your answer. You’re just prolonging your heartache. I know it’s hard, I know it sucks, but you’ve GOT to establish some distance before you can move on. You’ve got to let go of this guy.
If, on the other hand, your split is super fresh, these sucky feelings are pretty normal. Break-ups tip the world off its axis for a while and you need to give yourself time to recalibrate. But my advice is essentially the same – keep your distance and have zero contact. Keep filling that space in your life like you’re doing, and one day you’ll wake up and realise there isn’t a space there at all.
Love, reality chick