I met this guy online and ended up going out to a restaurant on our first date. Things went extraordinarly well. We talked and talked over the time the resturant had closed. He acted like he didn’t want to leave. He invited me up to his “cabin” for the next weekend. We ‘got’ each other, he was a gentleman, we mucked around but nothing more. The next weekend I saw him again and found out he’d split with his ex two months prior. We ended up having sex. I went once more, than he went on a road trip on his motorcycle. We talked before he left and I expected to hear back when he returned.
We had a couple of texts after he returned; I asked how his trip was and he didn’t answer for a couple days. I sent another saying all I wanted was honesty and he texted that he was “freaking out” over his breakup, didn’t mean to be disrespectful to me, but said he had to go away on his motorcycle solo to work on his inner turmoil. He came back later and said he would call but we never ended up talking. He said we could talk when he was more grounded. I sent another text saying the same thing, that I just want the truth and that I’m woman enough to deserve it considering the things we said, things we planned to do together, etc. He said he really liked me and that was a good start.
I’m trying to have patience and have texted ones asking how his inner turmoil was coming along … and asked if he was getting back with his ex, and there’s been nothing. It’s been over two months without a word. He’s really into high-risk sports and I know he’s probably busy doing his activities but I feel very strongly for this guy. Someone I’ve been looking for all my life. I so very much want to see him again and talk. What do you think the chances are that eventually he’ll contact me? He just does not seem like the guy that would let this go and never contact me. I know he just needs more time. But how long? How hard is it to send a simple text saying he’s not interested or ANYTHING. WHY?? I would wait for a long time for him. He’s worth it. Cori
He’s not worth it, Cori. And he’s not interested. Here’s my take on the situation: he was just out of a long-term thing, wanted to get his rocks off and manipulated you into it by romancing you and being the perfect gentleman and making you feel like he ‘got you’ and that you maybe had a future together. So he basically talked you into bed a few times, then bailed. Kinda textbook.
Now, most women would wear two weeks of his post-sex ducking and weaving and excuse-making before thinking, ‘What an utter douche-bag!’ and hopping back online to set up some coffee dates with new blokes. But he did such a number on you that you sat there for two MONTHS patiently waiting for him to get over his ‘inner turmoil’. He, meanwhile, has actually just been on some blokey Easy Rider-style road trips and doing lots of extreme sports and no doubt shagging a heap of other women he’s met along the way. I’d put money on it, actually, because that’s what most dudes two months out of a break-up do.
Love, reality chick