My boyfriend never helps around the house. If I cook he won’t do the dishes. We got a dog (at his insistence) but he never walks it so it’s left to me. Now I’m at uni and working full time and finding it hard to keep on top of everything. How can I make him do more? Chloe
Short of putting a rocket up his bum, you can’t, and I’m sure, like other women in this position, you’ve tried nagging, wheedling, bribing etc, to no avail. According to the ongoing Household Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia (HILDA) survey of 12,000 households, 51.5 percent of women who work full-time think they do a bit or much more than their fair share around the house. Only 16.2 percent of men who work full-time feel they do a bit more or much more than their fair share.
In households where couples have at least one child under 15, the gap widens further; nearly 70 percent of women say they do a bit or much more than their fair share, compared to 11.6 percent of men.
If you love him in spite of his lazy ways, chalk it up to one of those issues you can’t fix (we all have them) and outsource: get a cleaner, buy a dishwasher, hire a dog-walker, and say it’s his choice to pay half, or do half. If he won’t agree to either, it may be time to leg it – and let him find a new slave girl to torture. Trust me, the ever-growing resentment you’ll endure living with a partner who never pitches in is just not worth your mental health.
Love, reality chick