I totally love my wife. She is the best. Beautiful, smart, everything – and the sex is great. I have never and will never cheat on her, I just love her too much. The problem is that nowadays, women are so hot and very proactive – and though I won’t do anything, the desire is strong. Like a lion over a gazelle. Is this normal? Eduardo
Dearie me. What’s a married man to do, with hot, proactive women hitting on him constantly? You must tremble just at the thought of leaving the house. Don’t look to me for a permission slip, though, buddy. Basically, you’re a bloke with a big ego and an even bigger libido – nothing unusual there – and it’s all about how you cope with both that counts.
Bottom line? You love your wife, you don’t want to lose her – and it sounds like if you cheat, it’s all over. So don’t put yourself in situations where you’ll be tempted (so strip clubs are out), don’t kid yourself into thinking that every hottie who crosses your path wants to jump your bones (they don’t) and above all else, stop likening yourself to a wild animal with zero impulse control (you’re not a lion, and this isn’t a David Attenborough documentary). Humans have choices, and if monogamy’s the bedrock of your marriage, you have to weigh up whether giving in to a moment of lust is worth losing everything you love. Frankly, if you dither for more than 5 seconds over that answer, you and your wife may need greater help than I can give you.
Love, reality chick