My hubby and I have been married for ten years and have two kids. Apart from a stale sex life, we love each other deeply, so when he suggested we try swinging, I agreed to give it a go to spice things up in the bedroom. We found a swingers’ party online and the weird thing is, I really enjoyed myself with one of the couples we met there, but my hubby was so jealous he couldn’t perform and things quickly turned sour.
We haven’t really discussed it much since, but I’d love to give it another go, and given my husband was the one who wanted to do it in the first place, I’m wondering if I should try to convince him, or just leave it? SwingGal
This is the problem with throwing conservatism to the wind. As cool as you think you’ll be with your partner sharing bodily fluids with Sandy’n’Randy, a yoga-loving couple from Coogee, not everyone can handle the reality of the situation. For some couples swinging works a treat as a way to safely explore fantasies and bi-sexuality. For others, it’s a sure-fire relationship wrecker.
It sounds like your confidence skyrocketed during the experience, but your hubby’s plummeted. Maybe he suspected someone else was doing a better job at satisfying you than him? That’s a passion killer to be sure. Bottom line: It’s not worth putting your partner in a bad place emotionally and sexually just so you can get your rocks off in a Jacuzzi with some randoms. Back off from the swingers scene unless he suggests it again (and it sounds like he won’t). It takes two to tango to the swingers beat and right now you’re missing a dance partner.
Love, reality chick