My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. I love him; he means the world to me. But lately it feels like we’re just friends. I don’t feel like we’re a couple. On the other hand I have my best friend Dylan who’s so great. I tell him everything. He’s never been great with the girls, but he has something about him that’s making me fall for him.
The past three days I’ve cried myself to sleep. My boyfriend picked me up on Valentine’s Day and brought me flowers, chocolate, and this morning I was sure I was gonna break up with him but after I saw his V Day stuff for me I chickened out. He asked me so many times if something was wrong. I said no. But really when I was with him, all I was thinking about was Dylan. I don’t know what to do. Please help me. Casey
I dated a great guy when I was in my teens. For months, I fancied him like mad and then one day, my brain and body just did an about face; I still liked him as a person, but physically it felt all wrong, from the smell of his aftershave, to the way he pressed his nose into my neck when we were on the couch and he wanted to make out. It was baffling for me and hurtful for him and it didn’t end well.
I’d lost that lovin’ feeling somewhere along the way, and that was that. And I suspect you have as well, Casey, but probably because you’ve been hanging out with Dylan too much and you’re all messed up in a grass-is-greener kinda way (when sometimes it isn’t, but you can’t be told that, you have to learn it for yourself). It’s a shame because your boyfriend sounds like a sweetheart and of course you do love him in a platonic kind of way. However, after a year together, he deserves more than that, don’t you think?
You know what to do, my sweet. It’ll just really suck doing it.
Love, reality chick