I’m 13 years older than the guy I dated. He’s 23. He came on to me and this routinely happens as I look mid 20s. The sex was great. I wasn’t looking to be serious with him but he’d always ask me to spend the night. He’d cuddle me and hold me and pet me and compliment me tremendously. I felt like a goddess! Then during the week I’d never hear from him. Last time, it was two weeks. Turns out he went to Vegas.
I asked him if he’d slept with someone lately and he had. I told him I didn’t want to sleep with him while he was having sex with other women due to STD concerns. Haven’t heard from him since. Not really surprised but I don’t understand how loving he was when we were together if he only wanted me for sex. I’d love some thoughts! Alice
Anyone can turn on the charm if they want to get their rocks off, and hot 23-year-olds are, I’d guess, pretty motivated in that area. But then, so are people of all ages (in Californication, for example, Hank turns wooing one-night-stands into an art form – while knowing he never plans to see them again, the cad).
Maybe the invitations to sleep over and all the complimenting and spooning and cuddling is because he’s an affectionate guy. Maybe it’s because he’s a consummate player and wanted to keep things sweet for as long as he could (that is, until you found out he was sleeping with other people). See it for what it was: a saucy interlude with a toy boy – and don’t read much more into it than that.
Love, reality chick