I split from my husband nearly three years ago and have dabbled on the dating scene. About a year ago I met a guy that I really liked and things have been going well. Until recently, when he’s become busy at work and is now less into me.
He says he is too old to change and that I’m looking for something he will never be. When we are together it’s really good but I’m feeling more unsure and sad that yet again it looks like I will be on my own. How’s a girl supposed to know when to stick a bad patch out or when to cut your losses? Sam x
I think one of the easiest (and worst) mistakes we can make while dating is not listening to what people actually say, or spinning their words into something that’s somehow tolerable so we can bandaid a relationship that’s not good for us, or not working.
If a guy told me flat out that he was ‘too old’ to change and would ‘never be’ what I wanted, I would be outta there. The sucky thing is, a decent bloke who really feels that way should have the balls to call it off completely, but sometimes, the cowardly but preferable option is to paint themselves in a negative light in the hope that you’ll pull the pin and save them the hassle.
So, my answer is – get out and put yourself back out there. Let Mr I’m Too Old To Change go find himself a blankie and a rocking chair and miss out on the awesomeness that is you. His loss.
Love, reality chick