Is the blowjob on the way out?

Is the blowjob on the way out?

blowjobSo, there’s a new Esquire piece doing the rounds called The Demise of the Blowjob, by Geoff Dyer. It’s not exactly research-driven. Rather, Geoff polled ten of his male friends – and found eight would rather go down on a girl than get a blowjob (the other two were gay). Um, am I in the twilight zone? Are more blokes out there seriously saying, “Honey, don’t worry about going down on me. BJs are so overrated. I just want to go down on you tonight. And tomorrow night. If you’ll let me.” From what we hear at RC HQ, nothing could be further from the truth.

In the interests of research, I polled some of my mates about whether BJs have quietly slipped off the sexual menu in their bedrooms. And more importantly, whether the happy knock-on effect has been that they’re getting more oral action. Overwhelmingly, most felt the blow job was alive and well – in their relationships at least – and that there hadn’t been any discernable rise in their guy going down on them more. The general consensus? That Geoff Dyer was possibly taking crazy pills.

“Is he SERIOUS?” My friend Marion shrieked down the phone. “It’s a scientific fact that guys don’t like ANYTHING better than blowjobs. They even like blowjobs better than food and beer. That BJ article sounds like total BS. For his eight guys who say they prefer going down on a woman, I could find 80 today who’d disagree. Vehemently.” Ahem.


~ What do you think? Do you believe girls get more oral these days? Do you get more oral when you’re dating as opposed to being in a relationship? How often do you give your partner a BJ? Or if you’re a guy, how often do you get one? Do you prefer going down on a girl than getting a BJ? Help us make sense of this sticky tricky conundrum in the comments.

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2 Comments

  1. Pire 5 years ago

    Judging from my friends and myself, all males, i could say this guy, Geoff Dyer, does not taking crazy pills at all…
    He has a good point, not that 80% of men would prefer that as a conclusion, but sometimes it is better, the more you like the girl, more you want to explore her!
    And please, tell your friend Marion that there are MANY things men like better in sex … one of them is good penetration for sure, assuming you really like the girl always …
    And yes, bl’s are good, or just ok, or even boring, and some others don’t like them at all … Just google, guys that don’t like bl’s …

  2. Lola 5 years ago

    It really depends, but in my experience it’s the HJ (Hand Job) that seems to be getting higher rating.
    Over to youse all!

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