Doesn’t sit right with me, Michaela – I loathe being called ‘dude’ or ‘man’. Also, I’ll never forget when a guy I was dating yelled ‘Oi!’ to get my attention on a busy street once. He was so dumped. Let’s see what the Manswers team think about this one.
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Manswers Man Bernard says … “Guys have lots of ways of letting you know they’re interested. If you catch him taking a sneaky stare at you, that’s one. Fumbling his words, that’s another. This calling you ‘dude’ thing, though – it’s something I have reservations about. The classic ‘dude’ from cinema is, as we all know, a Coen Brothers creation you’ll find in The Big Lebowski. He’s a pot-smoking hippy with a penchant for White Russians and no one really takes him that seriously. So calling a girl ‘dude’ may seem, on the outside, like a term of endearment, but I reckon it’s a signal that he considers you one of the boys or just a cool mate to go on the piss with. Bottom line girls: if someone’s calling you dude, they’re just not that into you.”
Manswers Man Dr Phil says… “Whether we like it or not, ‘dude’ or ‘man’ is pretty much accepted vernacular when speaking to anyone these days – even regardless of sex. It’s just one if those freakin’ Americanisms. I personally call people ‘man’ all the time – sometimes including girls who are friends, which I try and avoid, and even my wife, much to her chagrin! (And my mum – who hates it!). On one hand the ‘dude’ endearment may be an indicator that he does not regard you romantically, but on the other, it depends on him. Is he an ex-hippie? Is he prone to calling EVERYONE dude? If that’s the case, you may be in there! Good luck dude! ;)”
Manswers Man Mr E says… “Dude, what are you thinking?!? Clearly this chick is into you… Oh wait, HE is the dude and you’re the babe. Sorry, Michaela. Mmmmm, it’s a tricky one. Does your prospect enjoy the works of Owen Wilson or Jim Carey a little too much perhaps? Or maybe the occasional doobie? If not, then I think there may be only friendship in the future for you guys.”