QUICKIES: Do I choose love with my ex – or the friends who hate him? | What do I do about this guy? | Number one thing guaranteed to turn my wife on? | Can you predict my future?

We get asked questions on all topics. Sometimes, the letters we’re sent inspire us to write an essay (or close). Other times, we feel just a few lines will do – and we pop all those letters into a semi-regular section called quickies. It’s just how it sounds – a short, fast dose of RC advice. Hands up who doesn’t love a quickie? We thought so.
In our latest update, our long-time philosophy of ‘no question too small or too strange’ definitely applies. Don’t forget, if you need advice from the reality chicks or the Manswers team, you can always drop us a line via the Question Box. We’d love to help you out.
 

Do I choose love with my ex or the friends who hate him?
I’m thinking about getting back with my ex boyfriend – we broke up in November. Everyone I know hates him because he goes crazy psycho after break ups – but I know he’s changed. The trouble is, if I get back together with him I might lose all of my closest friends, and I’m confused. Do I choose love … or friends? Help. Dallas

Sorry – I stopped considering your options for reconciliation after the words ‘crazy psycho’. Take your rose-coloured blinkers off and listen to your gal-pals, Dallas. They sound like smart women.

What do I do about this guy?
I’ve been seeing a guy for two months. But he’s already gone cold on me and I’ve hardly seen him at all. We have had some major miscommunications and he has complained to me that no one ever understands him. He kept sending me ramblings, poetry with no meanings. I joked about some of it and he said that was the most insulting thing anyone had ever said to him. And told me it was over! WTF? Anon

Don’t you know that you should never joke about a man’s bad angst poetry? On a serious note, though, I think you need to move on, Anon. No one needs this much crap or drama two months into a relationship.

Spousal turn-ons?
Dear reality chick, what’s the number one thing I can say that’s guaranteed to turn on my wife at all times? Craig

Depends on the woman, Craig, but a heck of a lot of studies show that men who help out around the house are having way more sex than men who don’t. So become besties with the dishwasher, vacuum cleaner, and toilet brush and I expect you may find a significant jump in how turned on your wife is.

Can you predict if I’ll become a mum?
Can you please tell me if you see kids in my future and how many of each sex? I was five months pregnant and had to terminate the pregnancy beause the baby wasn’t developing. Just last week I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks.  I’m devastated. Pam

Hi Pam. We’re so sorry to hear of your pregnancy struggles – that is very tough to take. However, reality chick’s advice columnists aren’t psychics. We did interview palm-reader Susan Taylor a while ago, and sometimes our readers get confused and think we offer that service. We don’t, but if you want to get in touch with Susan, you can do so here. Wishing you all the best for becoming a mum in the future.

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