I have a couple of friends with new babies who are already back to the kind of partying they did before parenthood. We’re in our mid-thirties and I find it wrong that they are expressing their breast milk to keep the baby going, then getting on the alcohol and the Charlie and leaving their three-month-old baby at their grandma’s. Is this the new norm, and if so how do those of us who aren’t like that deal with it? Too Straight
As I type this answer, my eyeballs are pretty much hanging out of my head with the sheer exhaustion of tending to my six month old cherub. As delightful as she is, spending time with her doesn’t put me in the mood for all night clubbing and boozing. The only party I want to attend after 8.30pm is held in my bed, snuggled up under my doona with a pair of warm socks as I await my 3am wakeup call. The norm? Uh, no. The very thought that other women my age are snorting coke off their babies’ change tables and heading out for a huge night is simply unfathomable to me. So, yes, I do think it’s wrong. In the extreme. Dealing with it? Get a new circle of friends. My mother’s group is chockers with mums who wouldn’t even touch a drop of booze until their bubs had weaned. And even the mums who bottle feed don’t have the inclination to knock back a six-pack, especially when they know that their baby might need them at a moments notice: to whisk them to emergency, feed them, change them, or give them a cuddle.
Of course, that’s not to say the party’s completely over when parenthood hits – I’m sure there’s room for a big night out every now and again and I intend to dust off my stilettos at some stage. But when you’re lactating and looking after a demanding three month old, you should be catching up on sleep whenever anyone gives you a night off.
Love, reality chick