How does a single mum in her late 40’s meet a decent man to spend the rest of her life with when she works full-time and does all the household stuff on weekends? I’ve tried internet dating and keep meeting fruit-loops: a 33-yr-old who wears nappies, guys who want phone sex only, a man whose child was in hospital in another country and he wanted money to pay the bills so he could come home. I just want someone normal. Is there any such thing? Cuddly Lilly
There is such a thing Lilly. How do I know? Well, here’s the thing. Lean closer, because I need to whisper this in your ear… I happened to meet my boyfriend online (rsvp.com) four years ago. And from the get-go he was nice, funny, polite, very normal (and didn’t wear ladies underwear or like to have his eyeballs licked…well, so far anyway). But to get to my decent guy I had to date a couple of loopy fruits too. Some of them were so odd I barely took the froth off my cappuccino before asking for the bill and getting the hell out of dodge.
My weirdo dates admittedly weren’t quite as bad as your lot … you’ve certainly met some of life’s more challenged dating individuals. But stick with it. Sod the housework, farm the kids out and get dating again. Love is worth a second, third, fourth and fifth try. It’s worth a whole bunch of awful dates when it finally does come along. And it will for you.
I’d also make this suggestion. Get a girl or a guy friend involved whose judgement you trust. Get them to look over the profiles and emails of your possible dates. It always helps to have a second opinion. If you get an icky feeling over the phone before you meet (always speak first) then bail out. If you don’t like them after the first drink or coffee, then bail out. Don’t spend any time on the losers or extortionists of this world when there’s a nice, solid bloke out there who wants to cuddle you right back. Keep us updated! And best of luck out there … we know it’s not easy.
Love, reality chick