Whenever my partner and I fight, he shuts down and doesn’t talk to me for days on end. I then have to go begging for his forgiveness, just so I have someone to talk to again. I’m sick of his silent treatment. What do I do? Keely
The silent treatment sucks big hairy balls, I have to say. Believe it or not, the withdrawing of love, affection and attention is actually a form of emotional abuse. And most people react in exactly the same way you have … scurrying around, trying to find a way to reconnect with their silent partner because it feels so awful to be abandoned and ignored.
There are a few ways you can deal with this sort of behaviour. Firstly, ignore it. He wants a reaction, and let yours be a little of the same medicine. Secondly, remove yourself from your partner’s negative energy field. Go hang out with a friend, take a walk or read a book in the local library. Have some fun and don’t let his bad attitude get to you. Tell yourself that this isn’t your fault – because it isn’t. Your partner is choosing to punish you and attempt to control you, instead of addressing his own feelings. Thirdly, wait it out. It’s tough, but it shows your partner that this form of treatment simply won’t work on you. Perhaps, next time, he’ll be more communicative.
Love, reality chick