Dear RC, I recently split from a 2.5 year relationship and would love some of your tips on how to get back into the swing of things after a bad breakup. Hibernating Hannah
That weird limbo land after a break-up is the worst. Chances are you feel a little lost and rattled as you piece back together who you are and what you want as opposed to the person you were in your twosome.
Blending lives, goals and social sets is inevitable to some degree for couples – otherwise why be in a relationship? – and now you’re recalibrating. Often there can be a lot of relief amid the sadness, and if you’re exiting a bad relationship that just wasn’t working you’re heading into what can be a hugely empowering time. Embrace it.
I think good friends, work-outs and travelling should be the top three in everyone’s break-up toolkit. The first keeps you sane, the second keeps you sane and in shape and the third gives you distraction, perspective and a whole lot of fun. Tool number four is indulging in a little writing therapy over at RC’s sister site Lettertomyex.com. Your ex may never read it but it’s a great circuit breaker if you’re drowning in emotions and negative thoughts.
The fifth break-up tool? Sex! Sure, sometimes after a breakup you lose your libido; heartbreak does funny things to us. But it’s totally normal to be on the flip side, up for some casual sex to clear away the cobwebs and symbolically bid adieu to the past. And really, where’s the harm in an ego-boosting, super-hot fling to put a smile on the dial? Just keep it no-strings; when you’re fresh from a split you don’t need rebound complications.
Hope that helps, and wishing you all the best Hannah. We’re guessing you won’t be hibernating for too long!
Love, reality chick
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6 Comments
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I’ve had a few breakups in my life, and all the tips from RC’s Breakup Book do work. Especially the post-breakup shaggathons… There’s nothing like feeling wanted again. What an exhilarating cocktail of hormones!
Kitty, you legend! Loved your post!
Hugs and best wishes to Hibernating Hannah and Lizabelle 🙂 -
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Wow, that’s a long innings Lizabelle. Hope you’re doing OK, and big hugs to you. RC x
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As someone who’s just emerged from a nine-year relationship and is still blinking in the sunlight, just wanted to let you know that I appreciated this post. Thanks. 🙂 And good luck to you, Hannah. You’re not alone.
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Well, I wasn’t going to say exactly that, but… 🙂
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The only way to get over someone is to get under someone else!!
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Agree about that first post-breakup shag. Essential…
