We reconnected, then she went cold. What did I do wrong?

We reconnected, then she went cold. What did I do wrong?

I was dating this girl long distance about a year ago for a year, we broke up and then were off and on for awhile. A couple weeks ago I was feeling guilty and thinking about the past so I sent her a text apologising for some of my past actions.

She answered, we started talking again and by the end of the night she was telling me she never stopped loving me, and that I’m the only one she wants. All fine the next day, but she slowly started to become more distant as the week went on. Then she was just ignoring me completely. Two weeks on, the silence is deafening. Was she toying with me? Did she decide I wasn’t worth it or that she really didn’t want me? I don’t know what to do. Brycen

Well, it’s hard to say, really, without knowing more about your relationship. Long distance can be tricky even if your bond is rock solid. It sounds like you guys had your share of drama, which is just added pressure on not being able to work stuff out face to face.

Maybe she meant those things she said. Maybe she’s lonely and misses you and just wanted to feel close to you again. And maybe, after a year of dating long-distance then breaking up and things being up the air, she had an epiphany and realised she couldn’t go there again and just needed to call time out. I’m speculating of course. And I’m not saying it’s a good thing that she retreated instead of discussing whatever’s going on in her head. But sometimes in dating, we become cowards at the very moment when we should just suck it up and be brave and upfront with people, no matter how uncomfortable it is or how it might hurt them.

I’m really sorry, but if I were you, I’d just accept that this ship has sailed.

Love, reality chick

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