Whew. It’s a common question Chrissie, and given the guy’s positive signals I’d be ready to bop him one for resorting to what I consider a shifty and super-lazy form of communicating, particularly in the early hook-up stages. Texting’s fab on many levels, allowing us to contact loved ones regardless of whether they’re stuck in traffic or hiking up Mount Kilimanjaru. But the downer on the dating beat are dudes – and women for that matter too – using it to hide or keep someone hanging. The first few texts after meeting someone can be about establishing a rapport, fine – but I reckon that’s also the time to gently steer the person towards the phone with a message like, ‘Hey, I have to turn my mobile off when I’m at work, but if you’re lucky you may be able to catch me on the land-line [insert number] before 6.30, which is when I head out for yoga’. Then maybe reply to every third text with again, a mention of how busy you’ve been and the best way to reach you (land-line again) at a specific time. After no calls – and ten days of texts – you can safely assume his translate to: ‘Hey babe, you’re not important enough for me to spare 5 minutes to phone and ask you out properly, but this meaningless text exchange is still a great boost to my ego. So thanks for allowing me to be a spineless tool who gets to feel like he’s dating, without actually having to make any real effort’. Harsh, I know, Chrissie, but if the guy isn’t motivated enough to pick up the phone and ask you for coffee (which could take all of two minutes), he doesn’t deserve a second of your sweet time.
Love, reality chick