WHO WON the 10 DVD prize packs featuring Jen Aniston in The Switch?

WHO WON the 10 DVD prize packs featuring Jen Aniston in The Switch?

Thanks for all your entries into this competition – some amazing insights and stories as usual from a wide range of RC readers. We’ve plugged your entries into our random integer and the ten lucky winners are: Raelene, Gina, Hoolia, Kitty, DD, TickTock, Bubble Girl, SheridanScarlett, cintrineshaz and Maureen! Congratulations everyone – you’ll be contacted via email so we can get you your prize – an $80 DVD prize pack with a copy of The Switch and Ondine

Turkey baster babies are nothing new. But Jennifer Aniston stirred the pot on the publicity tour for The Switch, when she commented that  women ‘no longer needed a man’ if they wanted to become a mother. Which is true, of course, but it ruffled the feathers of Fox host Bill O’Reilly, who said saying Jen’s comments were ‘destructive’ and threatened the concept of a nuclear family. Jen’s retort? “Many women dream of finding a Prince Charming (with fatherly instincts),” she told People magazine. ” But for those who have not yet found their Bill O’Reilly, I’m just glad science has provided a few other options.” You tell him, Jen. In the film, Aniston plays a single fortysomething who becomes a mother via a sperm donor. Seven years later, she reunites with her best friend (Jason Bateman) who just happens to to be harbouring a secret of sorts – one that could blow her whole world apart. Thanks to Roadshow Home Entertainment, we’re giving away ten prize packs worth $80 each, featuring a DVD of The Switch and newly released DVD Ondine, a romance/drama starring Colin Farrell.

The questions you answered to win: What’s your take on having a baby without a man? Has life left you in a similar spot – craving kids yet not having  a partner? Would you or have you resorted to solo parenthood? If not, why not? Tell us your thoughts in the comments.

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  1. kt 9 years ago

    In a perfect world, I would do it, but in reality a child needs a father and I figure it’s just way too hard financially to do. I came from a divorced household- my father provided for us financially but I have lacked the emotional support of a tight family unit. I’m not wingeing but life would have been easier if I had come for a two- parent home.

    Then again, if I am still childless at 43 then I might consider being a single mum!

  2. Josie 9 years ago

    David, chipolatas don’t count ;0)

    Go it alone ladies – then you only have to put up with the tantrums of your kids, not your hubby ;0)

  3. Maureen 9 years ago

    I have two children thanks to the generous support of an anonymous sperm donor.

    I gave birth to my second nine weeks ago and have never been happier in my life.

    I was very proactive over the years hoping to find the right man for me, but didn’t quite get there in time.

    It’s been a long and interesting journey but I wouldn’t trade any of it.

    My advice to women approaching 40 who are thinking about doing it solo, is to start seriously investigating your options. Take action. Any of these processes take time – and effort, both physically, and emotionally, so make some decisions before the clock stops ticking forever.

    PS

  4. David 9 years ago

    No way could the ladies do without the fellas, they’d miss the sausage too much

  5. fiona 9 years ago

    Having someone to share the load really does help take strain off, however, any big decisions need discussion and as I’m pretty independent and impatient I often think the turkey baster may have been better.

  6. Scott Goldman 9 years ago

    Children who are brought up in a stable household with both a mother and father present for their childhood will have abit of a headstart on others that have a single parent, when it comes to emotional support and financial support sometimes…..

    But at the end of the day, if you have a parent that loves their children, single or not single, you cant buy a better gift of life than that. I have alot of head of me but I cant wait till that day Im a dad

  7. Fiona 9 years ago

    Where to start,
    A matter of the heart!
    Judgement is rife,
    If you are not a partner or wife!
    Life passes by so fast,
    And soon child rearing days are past!
    Forty with no partner or child,
    Could send a clucky lady wild!
    The love for your baby is like no other,
    If only everyone could experience being a Mother!
    I myself am a Mum,
    28 with a hubby and baby son,
    I’ll admit having a partner is great,
    The support I do not underrate!
    But if alone you want to try,
    For an apple of your eye,
    Just make sure you have people around,
    To keep your feet on the ground!

  8. Author
    reality chick 9 years ago

    HI Jon, thanks for your response. You sound like an amazing guy and a dedicated father.
    By no means did we intend to leave out blokes for this one, but due to the nature of the prize up for grabs (about a woman going to a sperm donor) I guess our corresponding question has left the guys out in the cold a bit! So sorry – we’ll definitely keep that in mind when we’re writing questions for upcoming competitions.
    We’re very happy though that the competition has inspired a range of responses, particularly about single parenthood from both sides of the fence. Thanks again for your insights and for entering.
    Cheers
    RC

  9. Jon 9 years ago

    I’m a single dad by choice. I’m a full-time carer to my two toddlers. By choice. Their mother was not willing to look after them, and in fact neglected them so i took over the role of primary carer – again. I had been their primary carer since they were born, including whilst working two jobs and then coming home and doing all housework including cooking, cleaning, bathing the kids, putting them to bed, doing nightfeeds etc – often staying up all night doing the housework while she slept, then going off to work and repeating the process when i got home.
    It’s actually easier being a single dad then it was being in a relationship because now i don’t have her mess to clean up too.
    A little disappointed that your question focused only on women wanting to be single parents, there are a lot of willing, happy single dads out there too. Yes, we need a woman to be involved as obviously we can’t do it all on our own, but i’m here to tell you that once that child is born, dads can do it on their own.

  10. Emmlee 9 years ago

    I’m a single mum. I was in a relationship when i had my kids, but now their father has no involvement at all. He can’t be bothered. He also has no contact with his daughter from another relationship.
    Yes it’s hard, but there has been no breakdown of moral standards and my children are not ill-mannered, rude, into drugs or alcohol, they don’t smoke and they are either working or at school.
    My kids have done much better with me as a single parent than they would ever have done with their dad around, they don’t need to see that kind of abusive relationship.
    Single parents – and i don’t just mean single mums – i’m including single dads in this too – can do a great job on their own. The vast majority do.

  11. Beth Healey 9 years ago

    I think that children with a Mum and a Dad have a more balanced, happier upbringing

    but that is only if both parents are happy and love both the kids and each other!

  12. Vanessa 9 years ago

    It’s not a question that’s easy to answer. I know many people would be against intentionally setting out to adopt a child and raise the boy or girl alone, yet there are many, many single parents who have unintentionally ending up doing it alone and have done an amazing job. It’s a harsh thing to say, yet even if at the time of birth a child has two parents, it doesn’t mean they will their entire life. Parents split up, move away and don’t always take responsibility for their kids.

    I think that it would be better for someone to have a child via adoption or ivf alone rather than be in a relationship and father a child with someone for the sake of parenthood.

    I have no kids, yet as long as I am financially stable and grounded I wouldn’t rule out doing the whole solo thing if it comes to that.

  13. Meagan 9 years ago

    I have to little ones and even tho I have a hubby a lot of the time I feel I do it by myself cause his always at work! My hats off to single parents, but even if I didn’t have hubby I’d still want kiddies (dirt magnets)…

  14. Ann 9 years ago

    I was told when I was young I could never have children because I have a heart condition but I choose children I couldn’t imagine life without them.

  15. SAM BURTON 9 years ago

    there is no “norm” these days – great kids come from loving parents whether that’s one – two or three different parents – if you have the love to give – make your own decisions – don’t listen to the knockers !!

  16. Sarah Hurst 9 years ago

    Big financial responsibility as the kids get older !

  17. Jennifer 9 years ago

    There’s so many single parent families now due to marriage break-up so it’s not really out of the ordinary but I do think the kids miss out!

  18. Katrina C 9 years ago

    It comes down to having both parents these days! I was raised by my Grandparents. My Mum was too young and my Dad was a A**HOLE! Also I know a lot of single dads these days to. I think it would be very hard to do everything by yourself, so I count myself lucky to have a wonderful partner that has stuck by me and our two beautiful children.

  19. citrineshaz 9 years ago

    I have a daughter who turns 35 this year who is still single and has no partner and if she chose to have a baby and go it alone I would support her fully. Every woman should have the opportunity to experience the joy of motherhood if she chose to do so.

  20. Hannah 9 years ago

    If I could afford it to do it alone, I would have. But there are so many aspects to keep in mind eg kids grow up and want answers, there are bullies in the world that can break a positive kid’s attitude, lack of a father’s love & involvement in everyday life, there are so many reasons not to do that to a child. But then there are positivity too. I have friends, single with children, and they cope and they are wonderful parents to their kids. So I think it is a decision for each individual person to make for him/herself. If you believe in something, you can achieve it …

  21. Belinda Bonello 9 years ago

    My take on it is that I wouldn’t be able to do that. My mum raised us 5 kids on her own since dad left us. My mums so strong.

  22. monica scurlock 9 years ago

    As a person who raised two boys alone…i would seriously recommend a partner to be involved…the pressure of always being the only one to fix problems, emotions, troubles is alot to have on ones shoulders.

  23. Anne 9 years ago

    Being a divorced parent of two teenage children whose father never got involved in their upbringing, or showed any real interest in their achievements and disappointments, or love whilst they were growing up, has left my 18 almost 19 year old daughter come to hate him for not being there for her. Also, when my son was almost 8, he was diagnosed with Tourette’s Syndrome and Asperger’s Syndrome, which has been a very long and very stressful journey coping alone. He is now almost 17 and still has his bad moments, but all in all, he is a very loving and caring boy. It pains me knowing that he’d like to have friends and a social life, but is unable to do so. He needed a good male role model while he was growing up, but unfortunately he didn’t. So, in hindsight, I definitely wouldn’t want to be a single parent.

  24. Sheridan Scarlett 9 years ago

    Well I was married with three children, a husband of 2 years.. Everything was perfect, till my husband went away for work in the mines… And well from then after, niether our children, nor I did ever see him again…… So.. Having a sperm donater would have saved meh my sanity, and the kids broken heaerts…. So I think its not such a bad move! … “Why Not!”

  25. Chloe 9 years ago

    I would rather go it alone than with someone I was unsure would be a fit parent.

  26. Amanda 9 years ago

    I understand the feeling of “I’m not pregnant this month”,
    life flashing past my very eyes- feel like a grump,
    anything is possible,
    don’t doubt anyone else’s motivation or desperation, nothing’s impossible,
    My last word is- I don’t have a problem with the idea,
    it’s better than risking an infection from some gross stranger soaked in beer!

  27. Alex 9 years ago

    The joy of children should not be missed.
    It’s love and devotion at it’s best.
    A rocky road with a heavy load.
    But if you’re willing to do it.
    You should be granted it.

  28. mm 9 years ago

    i wouldn’t do it but i don’t see anything wrong with it for those who are desperate to have a baby.

  29. Lois 9 years ago

    If going it alone is your last option to have a child of your own I’m all for it, there are a lot of happy well balanced kids out there that come from single parent homes, having two parents has never been a guarantee of happiness.

  30. Tracy Boulter 9 years ago

    I guess I am pretty old fashioned in that I believe the best interests of the child should always come first. Sure we only have to look around us and we can see many children end up in broken familys. None of us know what the future holds in store so I think it is wise to look at the bigger picture. If a child has only one parent and they lose that parent, how much harder is it going to be for the child. They only one side of an extended family. Certain illness runs is families too, another risk to the wellbeing of the child. To this day my daughter 26 tells me she is so grateful that she has her mum and dad together as a child and still till this day.

  31. ljdbelle 9 years ago

    I’ve done it – I was 37, financially stable, had a good job, tight knit family, but I had been single for years. and was desperate for a child. Finally, I put my name down at a reputable IVF clinic. I was told my wait could be long as single woman are (typically) way down the list of those who sperm donors are keen to donate to. I was asked if I had someone who could donate sperm, and the process would be a lot quicker – I didn’t!!! Despite having quite traditional views, my parents were very supportive of my decision. Other family and friends also offered their support. As I waited, I ended up in a VERY, VERY rare one-night stand with an ex-boyfriend and became pregnant. He was horrified and tried to convince me to abort. After much agonising (I did not want to upset him), and endless discussions with family and friends, I decided to have the baby. I had my daughter on my 38th birthday (which made it all so much more special). Today she is a happy four year old with a loving (and STILL single) Mum, very close extended family…and a Dad who dotes on her…He sees her weekly and she has just been on a holiday with him for a few days. My life is complete…and I would recommend it to others in my situation. I could have kept waiting for Mr Right and then it would have been too late.

  32. rebecca mcevoy 9 years ago

    If women desperately want a child, then they should have one. It is the purpose of all living things to procreate and that’s why there’s a driving need to have children. It’s the best experience anyone can have. However, it is hard enough as a couple to raise a child, and I look forward to handing my terrible two over to Daddy at the end of the day. When Daddy is working at night my day seems endless and exhausting. So if women need to have the child without the partner, good luck, and much strength to them, because I personally don’t know how I could physically do it alone. But, a lot of people do, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

  33. LEANNE 9 years ago

    I would absolutely go it alone. Children are the best thing I could thing of doing.

  34. Author
    reality chick 9 years ago

    Very true Bubble

  35. Bubble Girl 9 years ago

    Not me, but my best mate is faced with this situation. She lives in London, and is currently exploring the donor sperm program that is offered in Denmark. As we are approaching 40, she just wants to explore all of her options – of course, in a perfect world she would meet a wonderful man, and then have a kid so that there was a mum and a dad – but it is not a perfect world. Men don’t have the same biological imperative that women do and don’t have a deadline for which they must decide if they want to have kids – unfortunately, women don’t have this luxury.

    I’m not sure I agree that it is selfish or wrong for women who don’t have a man in their life to just simply forgo having children. And while the idea of adopting a child is wonderful, the reality of this is almost impossible. A single woman cannot adopt a child in Australia – and it is a difficult and long process for couples! And can I also just add, that I’m not sure that it is just kids from single parent homes that seem to lack morales and respect – I’ve seen plenty of kids from families with a mum and a dad who are right little so and so’s!

    If you were a single woman in her late 30s or early 40s and really wanted to have a child but there didn’t appear any likely prospect of meeting someone and having a kid, I wonder what your feelings would be then? Would you just simply let that dream go, or would you try and do everything possible to make that happen? I think it is unfair to judge unless you are in that situation.

  36. TickTock 9 years ago

    Being lucky enough to have two committed and loving parents my entire life, I wouldn’t want to have a baby solo, but as the body clock is ticking I would consider freezing some eggs for later…

  37. Ros 9 years ago

    One never knows how far you’d go.
    A baby no-one wants to forgo.
    Until you’re faced with the decision it’s hard to imagine.
    I’m a mother alone with my children three.
    It’s not fun or easy.
    And definately not where I dream to be.

  38. Lesley Fisher 9 years ago

    Every child needs a real Dad,I lost mine at 10 and it has affected me all my life.
    Having a child on your own,whether a man or woman is very selfish and will harm that child’s psyche permanently.
    I’m not talking about becoming a widow or divorcee,sometimes that’s unavoidable but a deliberate exclusion of a father is wrong.

  39. karina 9 years ago

    It will be tough bringing home the bacon and being a mum at the same time!

  40. DD 9 years ago

    No way, kids need two parents – a Mum & a Dad to mold, shape and influence them to become well rounded, adjusted individuals. The way of the world isn’t heading in a nice direction with rug rats coming from solo parents..losing values & morals along the way. Take a look around at all the horrid, naughty, disrespectful and ill-mannered youth of today – I wouldn’t want to contribute to society in this way, not now not ever.

    No doubt this comment will aggravate other posters, but it’s my opinion & we’re all entitled to them.

  41. melanie w 9 years ago

    I have 4 children so i dont see myself getting to the piont of wanting another child so badly i would go it alone

  42. Caroline Gunnulson 9 years ago

    I lost my fiancee in an accident when my oldest child was only 2 it was hard but I had fantastic support from my family and friends,then I met the most fantastic guy when she was 4 and we married and went on to have two more beautiful children.

  43. Christy 9 years ago

    If I really wanted a child, I would consider adoption before using other methods. There are a million children out there who really need someone to love them – mum, dad or otherwise!

  44. Helga 9 years ago

    Only by accident or other circumstances; not by choice. I believe a child needs both parents equally. It would be unfair to any child. It is a human being and not a pet.

  45. Joanne 9 years ago

    I prefer to share the load with the daddy if possible, who wants to change all those yucky nappies by themselves!

  46. kerrie 9 years ago

    If i was knocked up and my man left, then i would raise the child myself. I would not get a sperm donor to have a child without a father, kids need their dad,

  47. Maria 9 years ago

    Being a parent – solo or otherwise – is the most difficult job there is. It’s also very rewarding and if I’d reached a certain age with no partner in sight I’d definitely go the turkey baster route.

  48. wackyjack 9 years ago

    Being a mummy of two gorgeous girls I can totally understand people not wanting to miss out on the experience of motherhood, if that’s something they feel they want to do.
    But it’s a tough gig, relentless, long days, no time out for yourself etc. Of course this is balanced out by the gummy smiles, loving eye contact and cheeky giggles, as well as the amazing journey of seeing the little humans evolve, but I’m thankful every day that I have my hubby to help out, and feel immensely respectful of all the single parents out there.
    Although I’m considered reasonable sane (wise even) and patient, I have those days and moments where I’ve had enough and need to go “here – take her now please!” to my hubby and cannot imagine how tiring it must be to do it all alone. More power to them! 🙂

  49. pollypringle 9 years ago

    I’ve always said that if I was single and wanted a baby and there wasn’t a guy on the horizon I would go the turkey baster route. And I stand by that. Even though I know it would be hugely tough… I just don’t think I could miss out on motherhood for the lack of a guy.
    Of course, it’d be preferable to HAVE a guy around to share nappy duty, vomit duty, sleepless nights, etc etc 🙂
    But I’d still do it on my own if it came to that. Can’t wait to see this movie – been dying to!!

  50. KItty 9 years ago

    Go the turkey baster I say! You make it work on your own – especially with supportive friends and family in the wings. And nobody should miss out on smelling their child’s hair after a bath (best smell in the world), or having them smile at you for the first time or watch them walk their first wobbly steps. There’s nothing like motherhood (or fatherhood)!

  51. Pauline Stewart 9 years ago

    It would be a heartbreaking choice to have to make but I believe that if I was out of time I would possibly choose the same option…

  52. hoolia 9 years ago

    It’s been difficult and challenging enough having two healthy children with a loving husband and father… no way I’d opt to do it alone but hindsight’s a wonderful thing, I guess.

  53. sabina griffiths 9 years ago

    I dont think it would really change except one less big kids to cook, clean up after….

  54. Chris 9 years ago

    Being a single parent is not the easiest thing, but luckily women are really good at muti-tasking and time management!

  55. Cyndie 9 years ago

    I think motherhood is more fulfilling than a love relashionship therefore if I was in a similar situation I would probably consider having a baby without a man. Adoption can be a good alternative, but some countries don’t allow single parent to adopt. In France for example, a couple need to be married to be eligible to adopt abroad.

  56. Caroline 9 years ago

    Having lived in a single-parent household, and with one of my friends currently a single parent, becoming a single parent is not something that I would consider.

  57. Christina 9 years ago

    I’d only go the single motherhood route if I had a reliable support network…friends, relatives, parenting groups etc. that I know I could turn to in times of crisis. Doing it alone sounds almost romantic (well, in the movies anyway!), but the reality is that raising a child is a tough slog even when the payoff is priceless – I’ve got 3 kids and I’m still married to their father who was/is supportive but I doubt my ability to do it totally alone.

  58. Peta 9 years ago

    A planned and loved baby to a single woman is a much luckier child that one that arrives to parents who didn’t really want the responsibility.
    If a woman is emotionally and financially able to support herself and her child then I support their rights to have a baby by whatever means it takes.

  59. Rhonda Lockery 9 years ago

    I feel being a single mother would be so hard ,i,m one of the lucky one,s with four kids and a fantastic hubby
    but I guess if it had not turned out that way and I really wanted a baby i,d go it alone and give it my best shot

  60. Judith 9 years ago

    I don’t think I’d pursue single parenthood. I got pregnant on our honeymoon and I’m the one who went back to full time work after our daughter was born, with hubby electing to take ‘early retirement’ and perform the role of stay at home dad.

  61. Bron 9 years ago

    Not sure i’d go the turkey baster route, but i’m a single mum the conventional way with no help from their dad – it’s manageable but it would be nice to have some backup sometimes.

  62. Di 9 years ago

    I’m lucky enough to have a hubby to help look after our son, but if I was single and really wanted a baby, provided I could afford it, I would seriously consider sole parenthood.

  63. Gina 9 years ago

    I have experienced both circumstances, I have been in a couple with children and had that break up and then was a single parent for some time. I feel that no matter what the circumstance as long as there is love and guidance and a stable environment, children are extremely adaptable and more resilient than we give them credit for. I believe you can be a parent no matter what your circumstance as long as you can provide for them.

  64. Amanda Gorton 9 years ago

    I would not intentionally try to have a baby without a man, the responsibility is too much.
    Growing up myself without a father in the picture is the influence on my decision as I think every child deserve a balance of upbringing from both Mum and Dad.

  65. B 9 years ago

    It’s not something I obsess about – I don’t think every woman wants or needs to have kids. Adoption is a much better idea – spread the love to littlies who don’t have a family!

  66. Raelene 9 years ago

    If I wanted children and was single Id do whatever it took to get the baby I wanted!,artificial insemination, one night stand,whatever it took and raise it alone.

  67. Glenda Booth 9 years ago

    Been there Done that but it isnt easy !

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